“The absence of curiosity, meaning another person showing curiosity in who I really am, is what I notice first when I’m cultivating a relationship with any person — lover, friend, colleague, whatever.” ~ Hailey Magee
Just in time for Valentine’s Day — and yet instructive any day of the year — we consider curiosity and how we experience and express love.
Hailey Magee is a certified coach, educator, and writer who helps folks worldwide set empowered boundaries and break people-pleasing patterns. She says curiosity is her love language. That seemed like a conversation we would all want to have!
I feel so loved and seen when the people close to me get curious about me.
Listen to Choose to be Curious #188: Curiosity Is Hailey Magee’s Love Language
Check out Hailey Magee here.
Read Hailey’s original blog post “Why Curiosity Is My Love Language”
Gary Chapman developed the idea of love languages. Learn more here.
Take a moment to enjoy the poetry of Robert Frost, kindness of the Poetry Foundation. This is “Mending Wall.”
And that “flow” Hailey mentioned? It’s the work of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi.
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Valentine’s or not, Hailey Magee highlights curiosity as her love language. Feeling truly seen and loved happens when others express genuine interest in understanding who she is. It’s a reminder that nurturing relationships involves being genuinely curious about one anothe a conversation worth having, anytime.
You are absolutely right: Hailey’s advice — and your observations — are good 24/7/365. Thank you for listening, and for amplifying the importance of genuine curiosity!