“Curiosity really is the foundation of everything I do. In coaching, I’m constantly asking clients to notice their patterns — not to judge them, but to get curious about them…” ~ Tim Molnar

How is hosting a radio show like dating?

It often starts with a random connection. There are a lot of unknowns and the occasional false start. There’s a certain amount of anticipatory butterflies. And when it’s good, it’s conversational gold!

Dating coach Tim Molnar blends social science and statistical scholarship with both personal experience and practical suggestions in hopes of transforming how people approach modern dating. 

How can curiosity help in our dating lives? Tim has thoughts!

We explore research’s origins in “me-search”; getting curious about what is — or isn’t — actually working; second dates and old-school advantages of the exposure effect; running small experiments with our lives; rejection leading to success; curiosity practices to keep dating your partner; and why caring about green smoothies is so very, very attractive.

For those who are currently dating and thinking about this idea of curiosity..I think it can be tempting for people to want to show up and seem like the most interesting version of their selves. But, rather, think about how they can be interested, as opposed to necessarily being the most interesting,

Listen to Ep. #294: Curiosity & Dating, with Tim Molnar

Tim Molnar is a former Fulbright teaching fellow and university lecturer turned dating coach. His book Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance is a tool kit for getting over ourselves and finding love. It’s big on methodology grounded in curiosity.

Tim reintroduced me to the Pareto Principle, or “the 80/20 rule” which says, in most things, 80% of the outcomes come from 20% of the inputs. 

I mentioned C2BC Classic Curiosity is Hailey McGhee’s Love Language. Inviting Curiosity by Design, with Cassini Nazir also has some delightful relationship insights from curiosity.

Special thanks to Curated Questions‘ Ken Woodward for the introduction. Check out our delightful conversation: Wrestling with Questions, with Ken Woodward.

Theme music by Sean Balick; ”Le Marais” by The Sweet Hots, via Blue Dot Sessions.

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